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Confidence…ah confidence…a fine trait that many covet, many want more of or simply many want to possess to feel like a knight in shining armor

We’ve all been there – stuck believing we’re simply not cut out for something and just suck, whether it’s public speaking, playing an instrument, making friends, presentations, or mastering that new recipe.

But what if I told you that confidence isn’t a magic cloak you wear or a mystical state you achieve? Confidence isn’t something you have or you don’t. It’s a powerful force waiting to be activated, a wellspring of self-belief within us all.

The key? Forget the pressure to “be confident.” That’s like trying to squeeze sunshine out of a cloud. Confidence is actually an output, the result of the right inputs and ingredients churned together.

Imagine an ice cream maker: you wouldn’t expect creamy gelato to magically appear without milk, sugar, and a good churning. Confidence works the same way.

Action is the Ingredients, Master is the Churn, Confidence is the Ice Cream.

Here’s the recipe for churning out confidence:

The Action as the Ingredients:
Take whatever endeavor you wanna be more confident in…be it your personality, something at work, social skills or a sport.

The daily practice, the workshops attended, the reps completed, the pages written, the people met, the challenges overcome – these actions are like ingredients.

Every action you take towards mastering a skill is like adding a specific ingredient to your confidence recipe. Practicing your guitar daily adds a scoop of musicality. Presenting in front of a small group adds a sprinkle of public speaking prowess.

Each action builds upon the previous one, creating a richer and more potent mix of self-belief.

But remember, not all actions are created equal. The most confidence-building actions are those that are aligned with your goals and challenge you just slightly outside your comfort zone. It’s like doing those last few extra reps, those hurt the most, but pay off the most. Figure what the equivalent of that is for you.

Think of it as using high-quality ingredients in your recipe – the right actions will produce the best results for your confidence.

Mastery as the Churn

Don’t get bogged down by the pressure to “be confident.” That’s like waiting for the ice cream to magically appear before you even crank the handle. Instead, focus on the churning – the dedicated action, the consistent effort. This is where the magic happens.

Now throwing the ingredients in and hoping for the best won’t result in smooth, creamy gelato. That’s where the churning process comes in.

Mastery is the continuous effort you put into refining those action-ingredients over a long period of time. Long period of time can be weeks, months, years or decades. It’s the dedicated practice put on a long enough timeline that transforms them from a jumbled mess into a cohesive whole. Here’s how the churning happens:

• Overcoming Challenges: Every time you face a hurdle and don’t feel like continuing but you do continue, you refine your skills. It’s like the churning process breaking down any lumps or inconsistencies in the mix.
• Building Technique: With consistent effort, your technique improves. This controlled churning ensures the ingredients are evenly combined, resulting in a smoother and more confident execution. Surrender to technique – like a friend loves to say.
• Building a Body of Work: As you master your craft, you accumulate a collection of successful experiences. These act like stabilizers in the churning process, creating a foundation of confidence in your abilities.

The Sweet Result: Confidence

Confidence is the byproduct in all of this. As you master each step and enjoy the journey, confidence builds naturally and takes care of itself. The churning process gradually transforming the ingredients into a smooth, creamy concoction.

You’re not actively trying to create confidence; it’s a delightful byproduct of the action and the mastery.

Just like churning transforms a mixture of ingredients into a delicious treat, the act of mastering your craft transforms your actions into more confidence.

Confidence isn’t something fixed and set in stone, its always changing. So ditch the “I suck” or “I can never be confident” POV and grab your metaphorical whisk.

With every step you take towards mastery, you’re churning out a delicious batch of self-belief. Add the power of time and before you know it, the confidence will start to come along!

So, remember, when you focus on actually mastering something, you’re not just developing your skills; you’re churning out a potent recipe for getting confident.

So remember. Action + Mastery = Confidence.

And if this write up made you crave ice cream, go get some – you deserve it